From a mother to anotherrediscover motherood. You are not alone.
Motherhood transforms you.
At times, it can feel like you’ve lost a part of yourself.
Created by mums, for mums, Mum Love is a charity that aims to recognise, normalise, and help counteract the identity loss and role confusion many people experience after becoming a parent.
The Mum Love website comprises real mums’ stories, practical resources and empirical evidence to provide parents with a toolkit - and more importantly a community - that listens, understands and supports.
But first, we need you. Share your story, and be part of our community to support each other through change.
Through these actions, Mum Love exists to drive cultural, clinical, and policy change for new parents. .
Motherhood changes a person, but there is little support or acknowledgement for this profound transition.
Over half - 55% - of new mums experience a loss of identity according to Mum Love research, and 68%, reported heightened levels of anxiety. 52% say their career direction declined after becoming a mother whilst almost half (48%), experienced strain in their relationship with their partner. These findings sit alongside national data showing that 1 in 10 mothers experience postnatal depression, according to the Royal College of Psychiatrists, and research from the Institute for Fiscal Studies highlighting the long-term career impacts of motherhood.
A changed sense of self, a diminished professional life, heightened anxiety - in an increasingly isolated society, who can mums turn to?
The transition into motherhood reshapes a woman’s sense of role and direction at a critical life stage, yet this shift is rarely discussed openly or supported in a structured way. Mum Love is here to change that.
Through community, resources and policy change, Mum Love aims to help mums reconcile the person they ‘were’ with the person they are becoming. We know how hard it can be to put voice to these feelings, so you can chat to us - no matter what time of the day. Just use the chat button at the bottom of the page.
The chat assistant is a therapist-informed tool, built using input from maternal mental health professionals and aligned with current research around identity shifts and role confusion after childbirth.
It isn’t a live therapist and doesn’t provide clinical diagnosis or treatment. Instead, it offers supportive, reflective responses designed to help mums feel heard, put words to what they’re experiencing, and gently explore their feelings in a safe way.
The tone and structure were developed with expert input, and it prioritises emotional validation over advice-giving. If someone needs professional or urgent support, it encourages them to seek appropriate help.
A Space for Mums Feeling Lost, Overwhelmed or Struggling With Identity
Share your story
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Share your story |
REAL STORIES. REAL VOICES.
Identity loss looks different for every mother. It might be your hard-earned high-flying career. It might be your confidence, your creativity, or simply a lack of connection. We’re here to help.
Here you’ll find unfiltered diary entries from mothers at every stage of rediscovery. Proof that you’re not the only one feeling this way.
There is healing in being heard.
FROM A MOTHER TO ANOTHER
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FROM A MOTHER TO ANOTHER |
A Community Supporting Mothers Through Rediscovery
Mum Love is more than a community, it’s a movement for change. We are raising awareness of maternal identity loss so that it’s recognised, supported, and understood in healthcare, workplaces, and homes.
Together, we are redefining what it means to be a mother - whole, seen, and unapologetically yourself.
Whether you’re seeking real stories, honest conversations, meaningful community, or gentle guidance, this space is here to support your rediscovery.
Explore the paths below and take the step that feels right for you.
PODCASTS
Mum Love: The Podcast brings together real voices and expert insights about identity, motherhood, and what happens when you feel lost in the role of “mum.” Because sometimes the most healing words you can hear are, “Me, too.”
sUPPORT FOR YOU
Our therapist-created tools, reflective exercises, and practical guides are designed to help you reconnect with yourself, build confidence, and move forward with clarity.
COMMUNITY
Losing your sense of self can feel isolating, but you don’t have to go through it alone.
Join our online community or come along to a Mum Love Coffee Morning. Connection is the first step back to yourself.
INSPIRED BY REAL WOMEN
Your stories. Your Community. Read, share and interact with other mothers.
“I CRY BECAUSE THE FEEL OF MY OWN BODY IS COMPLETELY UNKOWN TO ME AND NOBODY WARNED ME ABOUT THAT.”
Hollie McNish, Nobody Told Me
After a traumatic recovery and an early return to work, I loved my daughter deeply but felt lost in my new identity until I realised that not fitting anymore was part of becoming someone new.